Flower remedies are such a powerful way to work with our emotions. I often see my Kinesiology clients make big emotional shifts when they find the right remedy. I use them myself lots too. Which got me thinking…There are certain remedies which lend themselves very nicely to the challenges of parenthood! I thought I’d share my top 5 flower remedies for Mums!
Flower remedies help us when we get ‘stuck’ in an emotional rut. As a vibrational remedy, they cause stuck energy to shift, and emotions to transform.
Impatiens: This is a Bach remedy and it’s great for those days when patience completely escapes you! You feel easily irritated and totally frustrated with the kids and others around you – especially if they are not doing what you say or being very slow. You feel distinctly fidgety and restless, wanting everything done NOW! Your temper may flare too, although it quickly subsides.
I think my experience of motherhood should be sponsored by this remedy! It is great for slowing you down a little. As you feel yourself relaxing your perspective shifts; it feels very much like ‘zooming out’ on your scenario. You regain your ability to see the big picture and are able to reconnect with your calm, diplomatic and good humoured self. A very calming remedy.
Oak: This is another Bach remedy and it’s for those times when fatigue overwhelms you and your strength wanes. You keep struggling on, feeling that you have no alternative. After all, you are the one who has to stay strong, the one that everyone is relying on – and ordinarily you are very capable, strong and reliable. So you keep plodding on, probably feeling quite stressed, and as your energy dips, perhaps a bit depressed too.
I think any parent will recognise this scenario and that feeling that there is no solution because you just have to keep going. I feel that Oak helps to break that cycle in two ways. Firstly it helps to restore that core of energy inside you, which has a very grounding affect. Secondly, and perhaps as a result of feeling stronger and more grounded, it brings about a feeling that it would be OK to stop, and take a break once in a while. A very grounding and restorative remedy.
Five Corners: This is a Bush remedy and it is great for tackling self esteem issues. The way we perceive ourselves can be such a fluid thing, and most women will recognise that feeling of sinking into a spell of low self esteem. It feels as though our outgoing colourful selves do an about turn and retreat into hiding. That pervading feeling that we are just ‘not attractive’ takes control. We choose drab clothes, darker colours, and we hide within.
This lovely remedy comes from a vibrant, sparky shrub that very confidently shows its beauty! It helps us get back in touch with that very strong centre inside ourselves. From here rises a powerful, confident energy, and our life force flows again. We recognise our own innate beauty and it shines in our spirit, our eyes, our posture, and our energy. A very empowering essence.
Hornbeam: This is a Bach remedy and I call it the ‘Monday morning remedy’! It is great for that ‘groundhog day’ feeling that you sometimes get when there are small children around, and endless routines overwhelm your usual sense of energy and joy for the day. It’s a feeling that can grind you to a halt, creating inertia and procrastination and maybe even causing you to doubt your ability to face the daily tasks – even though you always do.
This remedy has a wonderful ability to break through that very dense, heavy energy and bring about instead a wonderful vibrant, lively and joyous feeling. Handy for a day of childcare! It also seems to bring a clarity and purpose to our thoughts and actions. A very energising and uplifting remedy.
Red Chestnut: This Bach remedy is for those times when our natural anxiety for our little ones becomes overwhelming. It may even cause natural worries to appear magnified. Most mums will recognise this feeling – it is an intense worry, maybe even a fear for their wellbeing, that takes you over and often you just can’t shake it off. You know it’s not helping, and worry that your children will pick up on your anxiety.
Red Chestnut frees us from the overwhelm of these feelings. Of course we may have concerns for our children, but our natural concern is balanced, and comes from a place of calm. Our children pick up on our confidence and we are able to calmly support them and provide the security they need to handle their own troubles.
Some tips for using flower remedies
Finding the right remedy: Basically, you’ll know when you find the right one. You’ll recognise the description perfectly! And yet, another day you’ll read the very same description and it will mean nothing to you! (recommended book for beginners) If you have a friendly local Kinesiologist 😉 you can get them to help you find a remedy using intuitive choice or muscle testing. This is a great way of getting feedback from your body/unconscious mind and can be very insightful.
How to take the remedy: Pop a few drops of your chosen remedy in a cup of water and sip it throughout the day. The flower remedies will work their magic while you get on with your day. I often feel that the key with flower remedies is little and often. It’s a vibrational remedy. So immerse yourself in the vibration!